I’d love to say I had an “Eat, Pray, Love” moment where sitting sobbing in the bathroom I received divine guidance to leave my husband and go traveling the world eating amazing food. But sadly, it wasn’t quite that profound.
It was more a long series of nights sobbing in the bathroom, looking at myself in the mirror, and concluding “You’re broken.”
I wasn’t depressed and hadn’t been for a long time. My anxiety, a lifelong companion, was under control. So what was wrong?
A general feeling of discontent, a lack of energy and enthusiasm to do more, a loss of my spark, a quietening and turning inward, and these overwhelming onslaughts of negativity and tears whenever I felt criticized or something went wrong, which was often. A sense of resentment and frustration that I’m sure ensured those around me felt less inclined toward being loving and giving me the care that I needed.
So all those nights in the bathroom crying didn’t lead me to any insight, but thankfully the universe did send me guidance in other ways.
Someone posted a video to a Facebook group I was part of by a guy named Richard Wilkins. It was called “My F*ck It Jeans.”
Richard is well in his sixties, yet here he was making a Facebook video about how he doesn’t let his age dictate how he feels, acts, dresses, or his enjoyment of life. He doesn’t worry about others’ opinions or society’s views of how someone his age should be, but instead lives true to himself, and has never been happier. And here I was in my early thirties, feeling wiped out and like my spark for life had been put out before I’d even realized I had one!
Over the next year I followed Richard on Facebook, and was drawn to drive one fateful Saturday morning to Northampton, to his Recharge Day.
Richard always says, “The reason you are there is never the reason you are there.” This certainly proved true for me. I thought I was there to find out if the course would help my husband, but after I cried myself through the first half of the morning, I quickly realized I needed to be there for me.
“You are not broken.” Richard’s words cut into my thoughts.
Did I hear him right? Did he say I’m not broken? Did I dare to believe that? And how did he know that’s how I felt? There were over 200 people in the room. Was it possible that some of them also felt broken? If so, was it likely that I was the only one who really was?
It was this question that led me to turn up on Richard’s front door step a few months later to attend a five-day Broadband Consciousness (BC) course with him and his partner, Liz, and seven other strangers, who have now become friends.
For the next five days I shared things I’d not shared with anyone before. Then I shared more.
I listened and didn’t jump in with advice. I made no plan for what I must do when I got back from the course. I didn’t look at my phone.
I struggled, then I had a breakthrough, then I struggled harder. I spoke up when I did and found others had the same struggles. I supported others and they supported me in return.
I woke up easily and full of energy. I laughed. I cried. I ate lots of biscuits and didn’t care. I felt like a very heavy weight had been lifted from my back. I felt like life didn’t have to be so damn hard anymore.
I learned a way of separating that negative voice in my head (which BC calls “the script”) from the real me.
I learned that the script is anything that doesn’t serve me and I would not choose.
I learned to recognize the real me.
I learned that the script is just thoughts based on incorrect beliefs, and that they are not true.
I learned that if I’m not choosing my experiences, my actions, and my feelings, the script will choose for me.
I learned that it’s not necessary to listen to, analyze, or try to change the script. All I need to do is recognize when it is the script talking and not me. And not believe it. And not act on it.
And I learned this not from talking about myself but from witnessing other people and the script in their heads. Because guess what? The script told them they were broken too. And useless. And they always get it wrong. And they are fat and ugly. And they are not good enough. And they are not loved. And on and on… We were literally all reading from the same script!
Since returning from the course, the impact has stayed with me and grown. After over thirty years of listening to the script, for every month I spend not believing it I get to know the real me more and ignore the script more easily.
So how can we all take steps to turn away from the script and tune into our true selves?
First off, you have to recognize the script and be open to the possibility that what it’s saying isn’t true.
In fact, make it your job to discredit the script, to prove what it’s saying to be fake news.
Remember that time it said you were dying because you were having a panic attack? Not true!
What about the time it said you couldn’t do that thing, but then you did it? Yup, it was lying!
Oh, this is a good one—how about that time it said you were worthless and no one would hire you? Ho ho ho!
Once you recognize the script you will be surprised by how many times it pops up!
Secondly, remember that you are not the script.
Think of the script as a physical book. It has many chapters documenting every mistake we’ve ever made, all the bad things that could or have happened, detailing how we ‘should’ behave, think, and feel about every situation under the sun.
The script also has an audio version, which is what we can hear in our heads each day. But it is not us. It is just the script being read to us.
If the script says you are useless, this is not true, nor relevant. It is just the script’s opinion.
Mentally put down the script and accept that, although we can’t change what’s in it or get rid of it, we don’t need to read it all day long, and we certainly don’t need to act upon what it says.
Lastly, choose! Don’t let the script sit in the driver’s seat.
The script lives in our reptilian brain and is much faster at responding than our conscious brain. If we don’t consciously choose thoughts, feelings, and actions, the script will jump in and choose for us.
Start with small things: What would I choose to eat? What activities do I love? Be mindful of what you say. Cut off the script and choose to think of something else. Get out of bed at the time you planned to. Choose not to engage in arguments. Choose to take a bath or read a book.
Every small choice moves us away from the script and strengthens our choosing muscles.
Here are my top tips for doing so:
1. Laugh or smile.
I recently went to a laughter yoga class for the first time and learned that your body and mind don’t understand the difference between forced laughter and natural laughter.
When you smile or make a laughter sound it makes you feel better. It strengthens your relationship with your true self and draws you away from the script. So as well as remembering to smile and laugh for no reason, building opportunities to laugh into your life can also be a real help.
2. Focus on what the script doesn’t see.
When you’re walking down the street, the script is on high alert for potential threats. It’s trained to look out for all the negatives and potential problems. If you (your higher self) are not alert, you will listen to all the bad things the script has spotted, not just in the street but in your job, your relationship, the activity you’re doing, your children’s behaviour, your body… and on and on.
One way to practice disconnecting from the script and tuning into the real you is to focus in on all the good stuff the script filters out (in BC we call these “pearls”). Pearls don’t have to be anything huge. It could be a text from a friend, a hug for your child, a chance to grab a cup of tea in silence, or a warm bed at the end of a long day.
3. Be mindful of your language.
The more we look for something, the more it will show up in our life. This is true not just in terms of what we see in the world but also the stories we tell ourselves.
The reptilian brain (where the script lives) doesn’t take time to fact-check what it tells us, yet because it’s coming from inside our own head we tend to believe it. It’s like taking in a headline but not reading or researching the article, then accepting that headline as fact and maybe even repeating it to others.
So, if someone asks you how you are and you immediately jump in with “tired” or “stressed,” this is what you will believe and therefore how you will feel. If you moan about your partner or say critical things to them, you are repeatedly telling yourself that your partner isn’t good enough. How do you think this affects how you feel and act toward them? And the response you get in return?
Start choosing instead of allowing the script to choose for you.
Choose food you know will make you feel good. Arrange activities that bring you joy. Say no to that event you don’t really want to go to. Choose to go for a walk at lunchtime. Choose to give your opinion or choose to forget the ironing and take a bath.
Do whatever you feel called to do when you really tune into your feelings rather than letting autopilot or society’s demands take over.
5. Let it pass.
A food craving lasts three minutes, so if you can ignore it for that long it will be gone. I’ve found it’s the same with the script.
When something triggers the script and you suddenly feel angry, sad, or inundated with critical thoughts, it will generally abate after a few minutes. No need to act on the script either by saying something or doing something. Let it pass, then, when you’re no longer in the script, decide if you need to act.
Also, remember that whatever triggered the script is not responsible for your subsequent feelings, it is the script making you feel bad, not your colleague, partner, or the guy who cut in front of you in the line.
6. Share. Learn. Explore.
The world of self-development can be overwhelming. The script will always tell you that you need to learn more, fix this problem, work on yourself just a bit more. Be conscious of this and instead stick to readings and learnings that align with the simple practices I have mentioned above.
Focus on sharing as you learn rather than feeling drawn to learn more and more and more. This will reinforce the messages and in turn, you will learn through the telling.
Be aware of your learning style. If you learn from sharing, then talk to people about what you have learned here. If you learn from writing, write about your experiences or doodle your own version of how to explain the script to a stranger.
When we share what we have learned and help others, we move away from ourselves and our own problems, and this prevents us from dwelling and drawing more problems to us.
Everyone says this, but it’s for good reason. Exercising for twenty minutes a day is as effective in boosting your mood as some antidepressants. So whether you’re depressed or not, that has got to be good for you! It gets you out of your head, where the script is, and into your body.
By getting into your body, you can tune into your conscious mind, and you’ll likely find that ideas, inspiration, and solutions to your problems present themselves.
8. Listen to music that uplifts you.
Similarly, use music to get yourself out of your head and into a chosen state. Choose music that reminds you of happy times, or music that gets you energized and ready for inspired action.
9. Get competitive but not angry.
Try to avoid getting angry with the script, since it’s only trying to help, although ineffectively. Instead, develop a healthy competition with it.
If the script thinks you are too lazy to go for a walk, do it.
If the script thinks you are too scared to do something you’d love to do, do it anyway.
If the script thinks you should say no to an amazing opportunity, ignore it.
If the script wants you to lose it with your partner, choose not to.
Thank the script for its input, but remind it that your real self has the resources, experiences, and skills to deal with life without its help.
10. Keep asking, “Is this true? Would I choose this?”
Odds are, once you tune into your higher self, you’re realize the answer is no. And you’ll be able to choose for yourself instead of letting the script run the show.
The picture you see above is of Nina Kulagina, a citizen of the former Soviet Union who has apparently demonstrated psychokinetic influence on physical objects. She caused quite a stir at the time, and in 1968 Western researchers attending a conference were shown a video of her in action.
Are there human beings in the world who have gifted abilities that go beyond any sort of explanation? Cases of mind influencing matter have been reported throughout human history across almost all cultures, in various texts from the Vedic scriptures and the Yoga Sutras all the way to the Bible and more. The Oracle of Delphi, Jesus, Moses, Milarepa, Mohammed and many more names come to mind. These abilities include telepathy, psychokinesis, and other phenomena that lie within the realm of parapsychology.
“Among the most marvelous, most frightening and certainly most unbelievable possibilities suggested by psychic folklore is that human beings may be able to exert an observable influence upon the physical world — simply through the power of conscious intention; or unconscious intention, or; by some accounts, through the assistance of spiritual intelligences; or as a result of a mysterious principle known as synchronicity. Some scholars – such as Stephen Braude, professor of philosophy at the University of Maryland — take such reports very seriously, claiming that no honest person can examine the case study reports and easily dismiss them.” – Jeffrey Mishlove, from his book, The PK Man: A True Story of Mind Over Matter
Donald Lopez Jr., a professor of Buddhist and Tibetan Studies and the University of Michigan, provides a great example in describing the Buddha:
With this enlightenment, he was believed to possess all manner of supernormal powers, including full knowledge of each of his own past lives and those of other beings, the ability to know others’ thoughts, the ability to create doubles of himself, the ability to rise into the air and simultaneously shoot fire and water from his body…Although he passed into nirvana at the age of eighty-one, he could have lived “for an aeon or until the end of the aeon” if only he had been asked to do so. (source)
Experiments In Psychokinesis
Fast forward to today, and there is plenty of research that’s been conducted by scientists all over the world, and within the highest levels of government, that have illustrated the fascinating phenomena of mind influencing matter within human beings having these abilities, as well as some interesting observations at the quantum level as well.
One example comes from a document I found within the electronic reading room at the Central Intelligence Agency (CIA). Agencies like the CIA have long conducted research into the paranormal and they have also kept tabs on the research and developments within this realm from other countries. However, despite the fact that there is an abundance of declassified literature available within this realm that is quite mind-altering in itself, it’s safe to assume that the most astonishing discoveries remain highly classified, at least in my opinion.
The document is entitled “Research Into Paranormal Ability To Break Through Spatial Barriers.” I’ve cited it in many of my articles before, but never specifically dedicated an article to the document itself. This document reviews experiments by the Aerospace Medicine Engineering Institute in Beijing, which the CIA believed was “probably military operated.” It was reported in the July 1990 issue of the Chinese Journal of Somatic Science (Kongzhi et al., 1990; Jinggen et al., 1990; Banghui, 1990), and was translated into English by the DIA (Defense Intelligence Agency).
The document highlights experiments involving the videotaping and high-speed photography of the transfer of test specimens (nuts, bundles of matches, pills, nails, thread, photosensitive paper, chemically treated paper, sponges dipped in FeCl3, etc.) through the walls of sealed paper envelopes, double layered KCNS-type paper bags, sealed glass bottles and tubes with sealed caps, and sealed plastic film canisters without the walls of any of these containers being breached. All of the Chinese experiments reported using gifted children and young adults, who possessed well-known extraordinary PK (psychokinetic) ability that allowed them to teleport the various test specimens. In all the experimental cases that were reported, the test specimens that were teleported were completely unaltered or unchanged from their initial state. Even the insects were approved for public release since they had been unaffected by having been teleported.
Repeatable And Well-Controlled
According to a declassified Air Force study by scientist Eric W. Davis entitled Teleportation Physics Study, which I obtained from the Federation of American Scientists, “the experiments were well-controlled, scientifically recorded, and the experimental results were always repeatable.” Davis also gives similar validation for earlier experiments in China:
A more spectacular series of rigorously controlled (and repeatable!) laboratory experiments occurred in the Peoples Republic of China (PRC). In September 1981, an extraordinary paper was published in the PRC in the journal Ziran Zazhi (transl.: Nature Journal), and this paper was entitled, “Some Experiments on the Transfer of Objects Performed by Unusual Abilities of the Human Body” (Shuhuang et al., 1981). The paper reported that gifted children were able to cause the apparent teleportation of small objects (radio micro-transmitters, photosensitive paper, mechanical watches, horseflies, other insects, etc.) from one location to another (that was meters away) without them ever touching the objects beforehand. The experiments were operated under exceptionally well-controlled conditions (both blind and double-blind). The researchers involved included not only observers from various PRC colleges and medical research institutes, but also representatives from the PRC National Defense Science Commission. Because of the involvement of the latter, it was deemed necessary that an unclassified Intelligence Information Report be prepared by the DIA (see Shuhuang et al., 1981), which included a detailed English translation of the article.
At the end of the day, when you start exploring quantum physics, consciousness and mind/matter interactions, as well as parapsychology which encompasses all of those fields into one, it really expands one’s consciousness. There is so much we have yet to discover about ourselves, our relationship with each other, with what we perceive as our physical material universe and the overall nature of reality. The more we progress and grow as a human civilization, the more this type of non-material science will become relevant. The advancement of non-material science and understanding of it represents the next scientific revolution.
Search engine optimization (SEO) is that one ingredient you need to solidify your web presence and ignite your growth. Because of the unexpected impact of the coronavirus crisis in the economy and the lives of consumers, a lot of businesses were left with no choice but to go the digital route. Today, SEO is greatly looked up to as a business-saver.
Consistent High-Quality SEO-Optimized Content
From the very beginning, Google and other search engines aim to provide high-quality content to online users. Helpful, vital, and relevant information make up an active ingredient to a successful SEO-optimized content.
Just imagine the awkwardness of stuffing web content with SEO keywords, but without natural and rational thought. An SEO-optimized but illogical content never wins. It’s either you reap the ill effects of search engines’ SEO algorithm and get your web page kicked, or your visitors leave you. So, it pays off working with an experienced SEO agency to help you create the best SEO content strategies suitable for your business niche and target audience.
Here are some tips in creating high-quality, SEO-optimized content:
- Use a reliable keyword research tool and incorporate relevant keywords to your content without stuffing them.
- Make sure that every sentence in your content can be read naturally, with the relevant keywords incorporated as much as possible.
- Only link your content to relevant authority sites, which has similar or related content topics to yours.
Voice Search SEO Content Optimization
Because most people search online in the manner they converse, voice search is one of the latest SEO trends. It involves creating relevant content based on human interaction, so it is compatible with voice searches using smartphones and home assistants, like Apple’s Siri, Google Home, and Amazon’s Alexa.
Voice search SEO content optimization utilizes the power of artificial intelligence or AI. According to a statistical report, one-third of the population in the United States or 112 million people will use a voice assistant on any device every month. This report just goes to show that instead of typing, the majority of consumers prefer using voice searches.
Check out these voice search optimization strategies:
- NLP Tool: Think about how people speak about your products and services. An applicable online tool, like Answer the Public, allows you to enter a keyword. It returns several related questions of natural language phrases (NLP) that are full of insights. Such a tool allows you to enter the mindset of consumers, integrating it into your sales and marketing funnel.
- Use Question Phrases: Use question phrases (which answer who, what, when, where, or how) on your content and not merely long-tail keywords.
- Local Content: Because voice searches usually contain local searches, it’s a good idea to incorporate related keywords, such as “near me” in your meta descriptions, title tags or headings and subheadings, anchor text, and internal link.
Embrace SEO Video Marketing
A report shows that 49 percent of consumers watch over five videos daily. Also, online videos are estimated to make up 82 percent of consumer Internet traffic by 2022, which is 15 times higher as compared to the 2017 result. That’s why video marketing is considered the king of all content formats nowadays.
Every business that wants to grow digitally should embrace SEO video marketing, with the following strategies considered:
- Create High-Quality Videos: Gain links and social shares by creating videos that entertain, help educate people, and provide solutions to their common problem.
- Ensure Mobile Responsiveness: Make sure that your website can be viewed on any screen, most especially mobile devices, so people can easily upload videos to websites, like Vimeo and YouTube.
- Create A Sitemap: If you’re planning to create and publish a large amount of video content on your website, creating a video site map can help with your SEO. It also helps online users to easily locate your videos, watch, and engage with them.
- Share It: Share your content in social media and other online channels to gain more backlinks and encourage social sharing.
- Transcribe Your Videos: With video transcription, search engines will have an idea of your videos, which can also help improve your SEO.
Following the tips shared above can help improve your SEO. The best SEO practices boil down to creating high-quality content, which is natural, engaging, easy to understand, relevant, and informative. Improving your voice searches and video marketing can also help grow your business by realizing your goals.
From what we’ve learned, happy, productive, and hardworking employees are one of the reasons why corporations succeed. With that in mind, some who don’t value time, lazy and unmotivated employees will not be good either for themselves or for the business.
But with a program to track employees’ progress, things start to change in the world of business.
People are going nuts about it -various industries are implementing it left, and right, many tracking companies proudly claim that it’ll optimize the business and improve employee’s performance and working hours.
But why do some businesses desperately need time tracking? While some organizations have staff log every minute they work on a task, some don’t log any time at all. People don’t really enjoy tracking their time because it’s kind of a hassle, and more importantly, it seems to add extra work to their already packed day.
Regardless of what you might have heard, the advantages of time tracking for businesses far exceed the annoyance of logging on a project.
Track expenses your business needs to operate
It takes a lot to run a business. Owning a business means you have to pay for salaries, benefits, taxes, building fees, tools and software, hardware, furniture, and desks – and that’s only the essentials.
Companies also need to deal with additional perks such as team building and team outings, let alone the snacks in the office and staff meals, travel and additional training programs, and more in order to stay ahead of their competition while satisfying the customer.
Such expenses usually add up, so tracking how much requires your business to operate in order to make a profit and afford them. Clearly, time tracking is only one area it can help your business with, but before anything is essential to understand how much your business needs to operate.
The amount of effort that goes into each project
Do you need project optimization? Of course, every business manager is seeking better use of resources and time when it comes to projects. And time tracking can prove efficient enough for that as it solves any organizational and timing issues throughout the process.
A good reason for employees to rely on useful software is that it can show them how long they are going to spend on a project. For companies trying to not exceed a budget or bill customers a fixed amount, it’s more than essential to keep track of the efforts going into each task.
For employees, it is vital to know how much time they have to work throughout a day as they can base on planned for what they’ve charged for the work or how much they think they can work on a project. As for managers, it is important to ensure employees use that time effectively, or they attend that day.
For instance, if a business has a great number of employees, a sure way to track their attendance is definitely by using time tracking software. And it can be really convenient for businesses who encourage flexible working hours.
Today, many companies require dealing with customers over digital media, which means the employee has to be at the office at certain hours. For businesses who provide technical support or call center, time tracking software is vital for staff supervision.
Managers have to know that everyone is doing what they’re assigned to when they’re assigned to do it. It helps managers learn in real-time who checks-in and out and who stays overtime and who’s late.
Shows where your team can improve overall performance and efficiency
Projects tend to be overly complicated with many layers, which automatically leads to a more confusing process. But why? How long does it take to finish something that isn’t qualified for the type of work? After getting used to time tracking, some managers and employees start seeing new ways of planning and tackling a project. For employees, time tracking data allows them to see how productive or inefficient their days are, allowing them to improve.
When tackling too many tasks, time tracking software is able to identify potential errors in the projects because it has too many steps or staff involved.
A time tracking software can help both managers and employees identify when someone spends too much time on a project than his colleague. For instance, when someone stumbles on a difficult task, the team should take it as an opportunity to teach new ways to improve their overall performance.
So, it goes without saying that when employees start tracking their time throughout the day, they get more engaged with the current task.
Provide visibility to management to know when an employee can take on an additional task
Staff satisfaction plays an essential role in the quality of the products and services delivered to your customers. When an employee feels overwhelmed or overworked with a project more challenging than he can actually handle, it will impact the organization in the long run. Such a result can be catastrophic, causing frustrated and unsatisfied customers.
But with an effective time tracking software within their reach to log their time, managers and employees can make more informed choices regarding the individual workload. They will know how they’ve assigned their time for a project and tell whether they can handle more work or not.
The software not only helps companies make more informed decisions about their staff but also optimize the recruiting process. If your business struggles with project management and time tracking, you should explain how much a time tracking software can do for their performance.
Perhaps one of the most important aspects of time tracking software is that it can really strengthen the feeling of respect and trust in a team, which in turn can improve overall performance and productivity. Businesses should see time tracking software as an additional channel of communication between employees and management- this tool helps develop talents and skills that their employee already possesses.